Home Sweet Home

I did it y’all!! I purchased a home for the kids and myself!! It still feels like a dream!

I closed on the house on Monday afternoon, and I’ve been to it every day, but I haven’t moved in yet. I’ve been cleaning a little, but I’ll have a professional go in before we move our belongings into it.

The three of us are so excited! I’m excited, but also very nervous! 😰 I know I can handle it, but as a single mama, I still think about the responsibility of it. But, IT’S MINE! God is so good!

I worked, sometimes 12 hours or more per day, and worked on my side business, just to make this happen.

Now that the hardest part is over, I’ll move on to the next feat: decorating and updating. I hope that you guys will join me as I turn this house into our home. 😊

How I saved $8,000 in ONE MONTH!

$8000??!!! 8 grand??!!! 8 stacks??! 😳😳

Yep, you read it correctly. I saved up $8,000 in 30 days! I honestly still can’t believe it! So, if you’re in the market for a house, and want to know how I did it, continue reading.

At the beginning of May, I decided to look for a home for the kids and myself. The three of us have really grown to like Louisiana, so I decided to buy. I first completed my pre-qualification application and submitted my paperwork to see what price range I’d be in.

Once approved, the search began. First house didn’t work out. Second house was perfect, but it wasn’t in a good school district. The third house was THE ONE! 4 bedrooms, 2 and a half bathrooms, 2 car garage, fenced in backyard, open concept πŸ™ŒπŸΎ YES PLEASE!!

I was ready to make an offer, despite the fact that I only had $1,000 saved up πŸ˜‚ (I’m a risk taker.)

So, after my offer was made and accepted, I started freaking out!! How was I going to come up with $8,000 by the first week of June?! 😰 It was time to get to work!

First, I cancelled all of my monthly subscriptions. I REALLY didn’t want to, but I was wasting a few hundred dollars a month on subscriptions that I didn’t need.

Second, I sold some stuff that was just sitting around the house. A few of the kids clothes that were too small, a camera, and a sewing machine were among the things that I listed for sale. It was also nice to clear out some of the clutter in this townhouse.

Third, I offered my professional resume writing and career coaching, as well as credit repair services to people. I advertised online, and people responded and asked for help. It was an amazing way to make money, and I’m actually planning to ramp up and really put my energy into growing my brand.

The last thing I did: πŸ—£ STOPPED EATING OUT! I absolutely couldn’t spare the $45 for dinner and drinks at Saltgrass, and it’s been killing me! I did sneak out one time to eat, but it wasn’t with my own money LOL!! Outside of that, I cooked. The kids and I ate at home. It is really time consuming to cook every day, but it saves money. I was able to deposit my work checks for the month towards my savings too, aside from monthly bills.

And there you have it! On May 31st, I went to pick up my down payment for my house! It has been a LOOOONNNGGGG month! I have cried, laughed, been upset…you name it. Now, we’re at the finish line, awaiting the “clear to close”. That’s another story altogether!! So, the race isn’t over yet, and if by chance something happened and we didn’t get the house, the majority of the money would go back to savings, and we’d have a nice vacation with the rest πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Hopefully, we’ll get that clear to close on Thursday, and I’ll become a homeowner again on Friday! Fingers crossed!! 😊

Trust the Process

In the past few weeks, a saying has been in my heart, and I feel like I need to share it tonight. I was feeling a little down, and decided to read a little, but I can’t recall who wrote it. Anyways, here goes:

Make peace with the things that don’t go your way. You never know what God could be saving you from.

I was online reading, and once I came across that quote, every single thing that I’ve been questioning was answered in that moment. πŸ™ŒπŸΎ

Have you ever wanted a job at a particular company sooooooo bad, but your application is always rejected, or you bombed the interview?! Imagine your surprise when months later, you find out the company is going out of business.

Have you ever wanted to date a particular person, and expressed your feeling to them, only to not have those romantic feelings returned? Imagine your surprise when you see them on the front of the newspaper for a domestic violence charge.

Now, those are examples, but a lot of our worries can be relieved by just TRUSTING THE PROCESS. Trust that all that is good is for you, and all that is bad will flee from you.

There have been so many times that I wanted something for myself, and it didn’t work how I wanted. I actually fell into depression after I had my daughter. I wanted so badly to have a “complete” family. I held on to toxic relationships in hope that they would one day turn around. All for that picture perfect image.

In reality, I had been miserable for a long time. It wasn’t until I lost everything (material) that I realized that I had everything that I need, and anything extra is a bonus. Once my outlook changed, my life changed. The blessings appeared out of thin air. Confirmations through strangers and even friends and family, that I’m on the right track. It has been an amazing transformation! πŸ’•

Once I accepted the fact that everything that is meant for me, will be mine, I was able to walk in that light. I trust God. I have a complete family right now. I get tired, stressed, and sick, just like anyone else, but I remain constant in believing that if I continue to speak blessings over my family, we will continue to thrive.

I dare you to trust the process. Believe that where you are in life right now is exactly where you need to be. Be happy with that. Find the blessing in it, and watch…..those blessings will multiply.

Just wanted to share my thoughts tonight! Sweet dreams!! ❀️

How I Chose My Career

I feel like today is a good day to share my career path and goals with everyone. I am often asked “How did you get into your career?” Truthfully, it just happened. If I had to go back, though, I’d say that the foundation was laid long before my career began.

Some of you may have read my college story, and if that isn’t the definition of perseverance, I don’t know what is! Lol..πŸ˜‚

I worked through college, with each job being a bit more progressive than the next. I had a few setbacks, but those setbacks were always followed by a come-up. I can confidently say that now, but if you’d asked me this in 2011, I’d probably say “life sucks”. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

During my senior year of college, I received the opportunity of a lifetime to work with a start up company in Hattiesburg. I was the first hourly employee, and it was my job to assist with the paperwork and on-boarding of the other new hires. I met tons of people, some of whom I’m still in contact with today.

After that job, I moved to Alabama. I worked overnight at a large hotel doing the night audit, and I worked at a bank during the day. All while finishing 18 hours of college classes. 80 hour work week + 6 classes = pure exhaustion 😰😰😰

Two weeks before graduation, I received an opportunity to work at one of the most popular companies in Mobile. I was hired as a Recruiter, and I learned so much about resumes, the hiring process, what Recruiters look for, and how to act during interviews. I believe that role helped so much with interviewing with new companies, because I’ve been told that I interview really well. (I hope this doesn’t sound narcissistic! I’m just promoting my business!!)

After Recruiting, I stayed at that company for almost 6 years, and decided to take another job in Mississippi. I worked in Finance, and I hated it! The people were amazing, but the job was worse than a root canal. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ During my time there (6 months), I interviewed for a position with a contractor at NASA…yes NASA, and I got the job!!! I was on cloud 9!!!!!!

Me???!!! A lil country girl from a small town in Alabama was offered a job at NASA!! I couldn’t believe it!! I packed up my house and my kids, and we moved to Louisiana! That job was awesome! Great supervisor, great team that I worked on, and a great salary! I worked there for 9 months, and then a recruiter contacted me through LinkedIn.

Honestly, I thought it was a scam at first, because I hadn’t been looking for a job. I gave her my resume and phone number, and we spoke. 5 days later, after a skills test and an interview with the CEO, I was offered the job. It was a Consultant role, so I’m basically in charge of my schedule and relationship with our customer. I am the only employee at my location, so it’s like I have my own business. It is AMAZING!! I never thought I’d leave NASA, but being in charge of my success feels great!

I wanted to go over my career path in order to let everyone know what I have going on with my career coaching business. I offer career advice and resume updating to those who may need it. I’m here to help recent college grads, high school grads, those who are mid-career, or anyone who just wants to discuss goals and develop a path to reach them.

My rates do vary for consultations, $30-60, and for resume writing, $25-50.

If you’re ready to get your career together, shoot me an email with your needs! I can be reached at smsimplifiedllc@gmail.com OR themomrevolution@gmail.com !

So Much to be Thankful For

I’ve been a little quiet lately. Really quiet. My mind has been flooded with all kinds of things: business ventures, going back to school, deciding on a home for me and the kids….you name it.

During my time away from blogging, I also arrived at the harsh realization that my spiritual life has been lacking. Actually, it has been non-existent. This month, I have re-visited this sensitive part of my life and decided to dust it off and give it a try again.

I’ve experienced the harsh life lessons that are synonymous with disobedience, I’ve experienced the emotional turmoil that is present when there is a lack of prayer, I’ve survived the sleepless night filled with worry because I didn’t know how somethings would work out.

In spite of life’s tough lessons, I’ve found my safe haven, in prayer. I actually realized that I couldn’t think of anything to ask for (aside from a couple million dollars). So instead of always asking for something, I decided to thank God for everything that I have at this point in my life.

Most people see me, and they see the obvious: a black, single mom..2 kids…no help….always running late….in the house most of the time.

Truth is, yes, I am a single mom to two beautiful children who are smart, happy, and healthy. Blessing # 1.

I don’t have much help, but I am able to pay a sitter when I have to handle business, and the kids like her. Blessing # 2.

I am able to provide for my children, with absolute minimal financial help from anyone else. Blessing # 3.

While most people say I’m always late, my job is flexible to the point that I’m not late. I work my required hours, and that’s what matters. Blessing # 4

I am in good health. I can run and play with my kids and we spend lots of time at the park and recreation centers. Blessing # 5

The list could go on. In writing this, tears begin to fill my eyes, because I’ve been spending so much time focused on what I don’t have, when I have a million other things to be grateful for.

Commitment Phobia

Sooo I know that my last blog post basically made it seemed like I had found THEEE HOUSE, but I didn’t. I put in an offer, and we didn’t come to an agreement.

Truth is, the house was everything I wanted, but it was in a horrible school district. If I could have picked up the house and put it in a good school district, I would have. It just doesn’t work like that. The house wasn’t for me.

I was sooooo excited because it was priced lower than I wanted to spend, but that was a tactic used to draw in more buyers who would pay more money for it. I chose to walk away, and when I did, I found the beauty that posted above. 😊

It’s so beautiful! It’s updated inside, and has a huge backyard for my babies to run and play. I went to the inspection yesterday, and it went well. No major issues with the house, so we’re moving forward!

As excited as I am, I’m also TERRIFIED!! What am I doing? I just sold my first house, why am I buying again? This means I’m settled here. Do I want to be settled here? I have all of these questions in my head, and for some reason, I’m still moving forward. 😩😩

I do think I have trouble making commitments sometimes. I absolutely love this house: granite counter tops, new floors, nice landscaping, amazing school district…..but still. I think it’s the fact that I can’t just pack up and leave that makes me nervous.

It’s time to stop running though. My son is almost 5 and will be in kindergarten soon. We need to be settled and in a stable home without moving every year. So….as scared as I am to move forward, I’m going in!! The appraisal is next week, so I’ll keep everyone posted! Keep your fingers crossed for us! πŸ’•

Omg I’ve Found It!

Oh my goodness!! Just look at it!!! Isn’t it ADORABLE!! πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°

I saw this house today and FELLπŸ‘πŸΎ IN ✊🏾 LOVE!! It’s just the right size for my babies and I, but the only thing standing between us and the house, is the DOWN PAYMENT. 😭😭

Of course I was approved for an FHA loan, with 3.5% down, but 3.5% is still a lot of money, (in my humble opinion).

I’ve decided to work as hard as I absolutely can to make this home a reality for us. So, I made an offer on the house, and will have an answer tomorrow afternoon! I probably won’t sleep a wink….ok, I take that back. I’m sleepy now! But I’ll definitely fall asleep thinking about itπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

I asked 1,000 of my friends to send me $10, and two people, two of the sweetest women that I know, actually sent it. I also posted it on IG and of course my brother liked it πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.

Hey, if you don’t ask, the answer will always be no!!

So I’m asking you guys to say a quick prayer that this all works out for us! πŸ™πŸΎ